Lots of questions!

Ms. BabyBlues asked:

What does it feel like when you squirt? How do you know when you’re about to? How can my partner make me squirt without fingering?

How can I make him last longer? What can he do to last longer?

Are there positions where you can have a girl or boy when trying to get pregnant?

What is the best birth control out there? Is there a birth control out there that you can have unprotected sex and not get pregnant? What is the best condom to use?

What is the best yet cheapest dildo to use? What is good for pleasing both people while having sex?

Advice Grrl answered:

I’m a little blown away by all these questions, Ms. BabyBlues! Let’s see how we go answering them all …

What does it feel like when you squirt?

This can vary from person to person and from orgasm to orgasm. Sometimes it’s a trickle and sometimes a gush. It’s very warm and can feel like you’re urinating (as it does come out of  the urethra, much as sperm and urine do for men), although you’re not.  The consistency of the fluid is generally different than that of natural lubrication, being much less slippery.

How do you know when you’re about to?

You generally feel like you’re about to pee. If you’ve already been to the bathroom and you know that your bladder is empty, this is a good sign that it’s an impending orgasm. If you’re unsure, try this in the shower or tub so doesn’t matter which fluid it ends up being.

How can my partner make me squirt without fingering?

 Pressure on the g-spot is what most often will cause a squirting orgasm. This doesn’t have to be fingers – it can be toys, clitoral stimulation, or (for some lucky women) no stimulation at all. It will require experimentation to find out!

You can read more about female ejaculation here.

How can I make him last longer? What can he do to last longer?

One of the simplest ways to make him last longer is to add a cockring into play. These can be very effective for climax control, as they limit the flow of blood out of the shaft of the penis. Read more about cockrings here.

If he wants to work on increasing is own stamina in the long term, something like the Fleshlight Stamina Training Unit may be the way to go.  This essentially provides resistance training when he masturbates, and will allow him to build up to longer sessions when having penetrative sex with you.

Are there positions where you can have a girl or boy when trying to get pregnant?

As far as I am aware, positions make absolutely no difference to the gender of a baby. Which isn’t to say to can’t have fun! Read about different positions in Ride ‘Em Cowgirl.

What is the best birth control out there? 

There are a lot of different birth control options available nowadays. Pills, condoms, IUDs, injections, and sterilisations are the most common. All have failure rates, although some are exceedingly low. There is no best, however – there is only what is the best choice for you and your partner. We strongly recommend discussing this with your health professional instead.

Is there a birth control out there that you can have unprotected sex and not get pregnant?  

As above, there are failure rates for all birth control options. Some are extremely low. Some are very high (example: withdrawal method). They all depend on how they are utilised by the person in question. See your health professional.

What is the best condom to use?

There are different condoms and brands because consumers like choice. We stock two brands because they are the ones we prefer, and recommend (Durex and Vixen). This includes a latex-free option. Best is, however, in the eye of the consumer.

What is the best yet cheapest dildo to use? What is good for pleasing both people while having sex?

We have a very large range of dildos available, made from medical-grade silicone and from glass. Again best is in the eye of the consumer.  But our cheapest is the Siren. It’s less than $80, made from skin-friendly silicone, has a 10 year guarantee, and comes in a great range of colours.

To please both people while having sex we have the Tryst, which is a great joiner for two dildos. Made from neoprene, it connects two dildos together so they can be be used as a double-ended dildo!

I hope that answers all your questions